I believe that there are a small group of women who hate men just for being men. I believe that the textbook definition of the word misandry fits that description. I believe there are bad things that happen to men. I believe those issues should be addressed. I do not believe that a fringe group of women who hate men can be blamed for those issues.
Misandry was a dead word until recently. A group of men who feared the progress of feminism revived the word and used it to undercut the movement. They like having the power being a man provides and they don’t want to lose that. So they created a movement, found a bunch of legitimate issues that affect men, and tried to blame women for those issues. They called this misandry. It’s like conservatives using buzzwords like “death panels” to make people fear health care. They let people assume it meant Obama wanted to kill your grandma. They let their cute little phrase infect the minds of good people and convince them of falsehoods.
People are telling me that men cannot report rape without getting laughed at. They say this is misandry. It is the fault of women who hate men. But that just doesn’t make any sense to me. When I seek a logical explanation, it seems more likely that this is because men are supposed to be strong and women are supposed to be weak. And rape has been viewed as something that happens mostly to women. So if it does happen to a man, they must be weak. How did this idea of men=strong and women=weak start? I’m pretty sure it wasn’t because of misandry. It is an ancient patriarchy collapsing in on itself.
Feminism is about fighting inequality. It’s about erasing the strong/weak perception ingrained into our society. Misandry, as the term is often used today, is about trying to blame women for anything bad that happens to men.
If you want to fight to fix issues that affect men, go for it. But I would really consider distancing yourself from this term. It is used to evangelize folks into a movement that is very problematic. A group that can’t handle scrutiny of their comic books and video games, so they send death and rape threats. A group that calls women sluts and think they ask for rape if they show too much cleavage. Those are the people who coined this term, and you should want nothing to do with them or their language.
Those who have it, enjoy it. They don’t want their problems solved. They’d much rather complain and garner sympathy. The reason I immediately balk at claims of racism and sexism (particularly on the internet) is not because I believe there are not legitimate instances of racism and sexism, it’s because 90% of the claims I hear are just whiny bullshit said by people who don’t want to be helped. Offer advice to a woman about sexism? Well if you’re a woman you’re a traitor to your own gender and if you’re a man then you’d better shut your misogynistic, male-privileged pie hole before someone cuts off your dick and wears it as a necklace you ignorant neckbeard trash! Offer advice to a minority about racism? If you’re a member of said minority group you are an Uncle Tom, sellout traitor and still a white man’s slave! And if you’re white well… Just hold still so we can set you on fire and beat you with sticks.
These people don’t want help. They don’t want to stop being victims. It’s too much fun.
How unfortunate. Your blog isn’t even monetized.
I don’t see what you gain by blatantly lying. Although if I must admit based on my assessment you seem to have a strong desire to nurture attention to yourself. Simply by the way you wrote. The one with the complex obviously is you.
Your precursors and explanations are nothing new. The thing about ignorance is that it follows a specific and identifiable pattern.
When it comes to being antagonistic you aren’t anything special(or even good at it). Your thoughts aren’t unique. I’ve seen much better.
This is all you have to offer?
Tumblr needs more of this….whatever this is.
a white girl walks into a bar and asks for a frappuccino
what’s wrong with this? I always do this. Not at bars but at mccafe or starbucks.
I don’t get the joke. Someone tell me? :3
you know, i’m a raging lesbian and i was never distracted by what other girls in my classes were wearing in high school. this is a male problem, not an “attracted to women” problem.
This is an “inability to respect women” problem.
Which is a male problem.
Things that ACTUALLY EXISTED FOR REAL IN EUROPEAN HISTORY: Non-white people, mostly those of North African and Middle Eastern heritage who were immigrants, merchants, missionaries, mercenaries advisors, and scholars; female leaders, including the famed Warrior Queen Boudicca; and queer folk, seriously, Shakespeare wrote sonnets for dudes.
Things that did NOT actually exist for real in European History: Magic, faeries, dragons, wizards.
Q.E.D. The “well, there’s no black people/brown people/women leaders/gay people in this European inspired fantasy because that would be inaccurate” rhetoric is bullshit.
JESUS FUCKING CHRIST YESTHIS PLEASE AND THANKS
So much fantasy is set in quasi “dark ages” feudal Europe. Can we just take a sec and realize that Europe is that asshole who gets to be a continent even though he’s not really a continent. He’s the jerk who, when he has a bad day, everyone starts calling it The Dark Ages.
FYI, “The Dark Ages” were a golden age for almost everyone else. Islam was booming, spreading and gathering up classical knowledge that would have been completely lost otherwise. China was going through a golden age of its own unter the Tang empire and Song empires, during which China grew and traded so much and so widely that they ran out of metal for coins and had to invent paper money (they also invented gunpowder). And let’s not forget that, while we have relatively few written records from this region, the evidence suggests that Africa (ALL of Africa, both around the Mediterranean and in Sub-Saharan Africa) was booming as well, creating empires of their own, trading with Islamic travelers and building gorgeous goddamn cities.
During this massively diverse time period, there were gay emperors and female emperors in China, the most traveled man in the world was an Islamic scholar and one of the wealthiest men in the world was an African Muslim king.
i think part of the reason white people have such a hard time accepting that PoC can’t be “racist against white people” is that it just removes us from the conversation
like, it’s not a matter of vocally declaring how not racist you are, it’s a matter of shutting the fuck up and letting other people talk for once, and a matter of openly accepting the things they tell us we’re doing wrong without trying to get defensive
because you always see that, don’t you? like…oh, sure, there are racist white people, but I’M not racist, i’m CRAZY not racist, here let me show you how not racist i am
PoC don’t give a shit whether you specifically are an active racist ok they are not here to vindicate individual white people
idk…part of the solution is a certain kind of white passivity, i think, and it requires us stepping completely out of the spotlight for a while, and when you’re used to nothing BUT the spotlight that can be hard to swallow
i mean i’m doin it right now